This question comes from Sierra, who writes:
I don’t feel like I’m pretty. I feel like everyone is prettier than me because not one boy has a crush on me. I’ve been really desperate for a boyfriend. I tried doing my makeup and hair to make me feel better about myself, but it doesn’t help. I need advice!
Hi Sierra! This might sound hard to believe since all I’ve seen of you is six little black letters in my inbox, but I’m willing to bet you’re A LOT prettier than you think!
Why do I think this? Well, first of all, we’re all WAY more critical of ourselves than other people. I remember this one time I was CONVINCED my nose looked like a cat’s nose.
Then I told Zoey, and she said, “A smile is happiness you’ll find right under your nose.”
Yeah, I didn’t see the connection either! But after I said, “OK, thanks for the self-help quote! Now what about my cat nose?” she said, “I always thought you had a perfect nose!”
You want to know WHY she thought it was perfect?
Well, for one, I’ve looked at it WAY longer and WAY more critically than her.
But also, she loves me and thinks I’m beautiful on the inside, so everything on the outside looks beautiful to her.
That’s how I feel about all the people I love. When I like them as people, I like everything about them!
(And the opposite applies, too. Even with her perfect hair and wardrobe, I think MacKenzie looks like a crusty old troll!)
So maybe the key to feeling prettier is to stop thinking about boys so much and instead, focus on yourself and your friends.
This one time, Chloe, Zoey, and I wrote down all the things we like about each other. I felt pretty awesome about myself after that!
Maybe you and your friends could do the same thing!
Trust me, if you feel more confident about yourself in general, you’ll feel AND LOOK a lot more beautiful, because confidence is beauty. Take it from a dork with a cat’s nose!!
What do you guys think? Do you have any advice for Sierra?